I think he's getting bored of hanging around the house and watching shows or drawing and coloring. I mean, he knows that world very well. It's easy and he's comfortable in it. I feel like he's tired of it and he's ready to get out and explore and make some friends and play with them.
I see this in his play. It's changed over the last few months. Ethan's play has evolved into plans and maps and intricacies. He'll sketch his plan on a piece of paper or a white board and then put it into practice around the house. Often his plans involve Rube Goldberg-esque booby traps executed in skeins and skeins of yarn. (I now know what it's like to live in a spider web.)
How do we break negative routines built over years? How do we push him and pull him into unfamiliar and, so, scary environments where he can develop the skills and interests that are shaded and stilted in this well worn home burrow?
How do we channel that strength and determination and energy in a positive direction? The Running of the Bulls has nothing on Ethan. Is it even possible to build a course that he can run through without goring people or injuring himself?
Sarah and I think that school is the best place for him to spread his wings. And we are..... optimistic.
It may be that all of the pieces are in place but one. Me. I feel like I'm in a race to get Ethan more settled and more successful in school before I screw things up for him. 'Cause I'm fried. My parental creativity, what little I had of it, is burned to a cinder.
Working with Ethan requires creativity and positive energy and the ability to think outside the box and pivot Ethan, rechanneling his Energy away from the china shop door and into an acceptable path. It's not particularly difficult, but requires a flexibility that seems more and more difficult to find.
That may be dangerously over reaching. It may be better to understand that helping Ethan heal will take years.